theology and gender roles… the usual.
i hate when i have so many thoughts at one time that i can’t make coherent sense of them to organize them. ugh. so a list will have to suffice.
1. sexist and gender role bias jokes are funny. it’s not funny when people make those comments because they actually believe them. (funny- my brother calls other guys ”nancy” when they prepare food. not funny- my sister in law takes pink toys away from my 1 year old nephew and tells him to “stop being such a girl” when he cries.)
2. the egalitarianism conversation with Chris (shout out!) is still rolling around in my brain. i buy his perspective on it. (in a nutshell, it’s that scripture doesn’t endorse true egalitarian views— almost, but not completely. there must be one accountable party before God, and in the hierarchical structure that God established, the husband becomes the sole answerable party for the actions [an inactions?] of both himself and his wife, thereby placing a perhaps greater calling for husbands and wives to drive each other toward holiness.) i don’t know that i can argue against that much at all.
3. this blog post opened up another window in defense of egalitarianism, though… the context is a response to an inadvertently harmfully written article that calls for Christian women to recover the lost art of servanthood. the main point of the response is a deep criticism of the “staying and serving” mentality within an abusive marriage because “it’s what God wants.” this response essentially stated that a husband is not to be idolized— a husband is not God for a wife. and there was this section of writing:
Your husband is NOT God for you.
Your husband is NOT your Higher Power.
Your husband will NOT answer to God for you.
YOU WILL ANSWER TO GOD FOR YOU.
and i feel as though i can’t argue against that much, either. isn’t it true that each believer is responsible and answerable for his or her own sin? and his or her own sanctification? aren’t we EACH saved by grace, with the call to be more Christlike daily?
but then, when we marry, we become ONE flesh. ONE body, acting in unity. but am i then no longer an individual, responsible for my own personal sin or personal growth? must i necessarily only grow the same way that my husband grows?
are Divine lines formed where the husband is considered accountable to God for the relationship sins and relationship holiness, but each spouse will still be responsible for their own individual sins and holiness? that hardly seems right.
i feel like i can’t be totally egalitarian because Chris’s logic is legit and scriptural. i feel like i can’t NOT be egalitarian because as soon as i became a Christian and died to my old self, i became a work in progress— progress that’s between my heart and God’s heart— and i can’t imagine that upon entering marriage, that personal accountability with God just stops in its tracks.
i’m open for suggestions and other theological discourse.